Dating and making love
On again, off again, then back on—turns out those tumultuous relationships are pretty common among young adults.
But what do they mean for personal development, and is “ex sex” the new normal?
While the social atmosphere is different at every school, love, sex and dating (and questions about all three) are a part of many students' college experiences, right alongside being challenged academically and learning incredible new ways to think about the world.
I'm a girl who's had plenty of casual lays -- but it wasn't until my current boyfriend that I experienced love sex in all its glory. Orgasms release a slew of neurochemicals into the body that make us feel calm, happy, and procure a sense of intimacy with the person we just slept with.
When you come, the brain floods your system with oxytocin -- the "love hormone" that tricks the body into equating sexual passion with love.
The importance of sex in a healthy relationship cannot be understated. See, as a guy, it’s definitely one of the most important things if not THE most important thing. On the other hand, many women would say it’s just as important, but may be more likely to overlook the issue if everything else in the relationship is going well. It bonds and connects two people in ways that few other things can. What’s really happened is that there has been a union between two people that transcends time and space. But, heck, it sure does mean that it helps bring us together. I know many women may be saying that they just can’t have sex when they don’t feel close to their partner. Consider that the simple act of saying “yes” to your partner, and to passion, may begin to shift the dynamic.
Here’s a simple way to sum things up: Men often choose a woman based upon the sex (or the prospect of it), and end up falling in love; while generally choose a man based upon the love they feel, and end up enjoying sex. If you’re both honoring each other correctly, sex will most likely help you feel closer to your love.